Why not marriage?

In June of last year my Daughter and my Son-In-Law got married.  It was a beautiful, traditional wedding with all the romance, stress and planning of a grand affair.  It was held at their church (our church) with the reception at the all ranks club on base.  My Hhusband wore his dress uniform to walk our Daughter down the isle and I was escorted down the isle by our Son, our gay Son. 

It was a beautiful day but it made me think...
Why shouldn't my Son and his partner not have the same chance?  To stand before God, family and friends and share their love and commitment to each other? 

I grew up in a small church in So. California.  Arcadia Friends Church was a close net group of friends and believers.  It's traditional evangelical views shaped my theological views on God, marriage and family.  But now, years later I question everything I ever learned.  I've stopped going to our local church.  Not that I don't love the people and the music, not that I don't want to worship but because I don't want to be anywhere my Son is not welcome. 

One of my dearest friends gave me years of his research on homosexualityand the Bible.  I have read and read and prayed and read some more.  How is it possible that the God I love could not love my son?  If you look in the links below this post you'll see a link to Canyonwalker.  Kathy is a dear friend and a straight advocate of the GLBT community.  She is a firm believer, as I am that, that God has nothing against the gay community.  How could He, He created them just as they are!

I remember sharing one of Kathy's posts with  my Son.  After he read the post and viewed the videos on Kathy's site he turned to me with tears in his eyes and said, "Do you mean I'm not going to hell because of who I love?".  Yes, this Mother cried!  How could my Son ever think he was going to hell because of love? 

This is the message that so many in the GLBT community are receiving.  Your not good enough. Your not lovable. Your not acceptable.  Your not (insert word here).  Why?  Because of who you love.

You can not change who you love and you can't change what you are.  And more importantly you shouldn't try!